In all likelihood, your mind is quietly ruining your life and sabotaging your future.
This is not hyperbole. I strongly suggest you read the following post and put what I suggest into practice right away. If it works for you, tell someone else about it.
Your mind is constantly telling stories and creating mental associations. A mental association could be a song on the radio that reminds you of summer vacation. Or maybe your mind associates the texture of dried figs and dates with hairy tarantula legs. Oh wait, that’s me.
A few of your own peculiar mental associations probably come to mind.
Many of these mental pairings (commonly referred to as neuro associations) don’t make a lick of sense, but it doesn’t matter. Once a neuro association ‘clicks’, it sticks. They are reinforced everytime you recall them.
Some neuro associations are relatively harmless (like the figs example) while others are beneficial and empowering.
An example of a good neuro association is how Rejection Therapy makes being rejected an exciting and positive experience.
Rejection Therapy accomplishes this in three ways:
1) Making rejection into an exciting game where rejection equals success
2) Because rejection is success in Rejection Therapy, being rejected by someone is considered a favour. Players are also encouraged to think kind thoughts of those who have recently rejected them
3) Rejection builds confidence because over the 30 Day Challenge, players physically and psychologically adapt to the stresses of rejection
Neuro associations can also alter your life projectory in negative ways and cut off future outcomes.
For instance, those who have ever been in a long term toxic relationship won’t soon forget what an emotional sucking chest wound it can be. The ordeal can make the mere thought of being in another relationship foreboding.
Worse yet, this negative neuro association that links being in a relationship to emotional hell is reinforced again and again by negative self talk.
My advice to you, and this is coming from personal experience: watch the self-talk. Listen to the stories you tell yourself. If you identify yourself as being a victim in these stories, or feel pangs of sorrow or regret from past experiences, you need to stop the negative thinking and analyse what you’re telling yourself. You are likely reinforcing negative neuro associations and sabotaging future decisions.
Instead, retell your stories from a more empowering perspective. Interrupt your bad thinking and create a positive new neuro association.
So lets go back to the long term toxic relationship example and retell the story from an empowering perspective.
Anytime the neuro association “emotional sucking chest wound” arises in the mind, consciously replace it with positive thoughts and feelings that give yourself some options for the future.
Tell yourself something like ”I’m stronger and wiser because of that time in my life and eager to be a more empathetic and patient in my next relationship“. Lay it on thick.
Try it. Pay attention to what your mind is saying. Discover how your mind sabotages the future and stop it before it’s too late.
I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself. –Lawrence