Throughout my 100 rejections quite a few requests originated from my readers/viewers. In terms of strangeness, this one today is near the top. And in term of the requester’s persistence, this one beats number two by a mile… or 44 miles.
John, also known as Casino2004 on Youtube, sent me 44 messages asking me to interview a female bodybuilder. For me the most important question is never ‘what’, but ‘why’. He explained that he is attracted to female bodybuilders, but was often blown off by them. Fearing rejection, he asked me to interview one on his behalf.
I often think that every rejection has a number. If you meet that number, the rejection will turn into an acceptance. For this request, the number is 44. Today, I found a local female bodybuilder online named Melanie Daly and sat down with her for an interview. Oh, I didn’t forget about my own crazy request. Wait until the end.
After this episode I learned that not everyone can be Oprah Winfrey and Larry King. I might be there someday but today isn’t that day.
I also learned that people who pay the most attention to their appearance, whether as a model or as a bodybuilder are very sensitive or even insecure about how they look. People like John aren’t the only ones afraid of rejections, the rejectors are also afraid.
Learning: 1. Everyone is afraid of rejection. EVERYONE! To engage in genuine human connection we need to minimize the effect of fear as much as we can. When we aren’t afraid, we help others to be less afraid and we are all better for it.
2. Rejection is often a numbers game. If you want something bad enough and try it over and over again, you might just get it.