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Day 36 – Trim My Hair at PetSmart

The interesting thing about rejection therapy is the variety of things I can try. I can be very serious one day, like when I was trying convince someone to give me a job or a dinner date, and be more light-hearted the next day. On day 36, I tried to relate to my dog and convince the good people at PetSmart to give me a hair-trimming session.

One thing I found interesting was the power of encouraged humor. When I made the request, its outrageousness prompted Christina to laugh out loud. It immediately put my mindset into a humor/joking one, which led me to give out a series of jokes. While I was successful in getting rejected, the discussion was smooth and hilarious. Jon Stewart, one of my favorite comedian, once said he is extremely uncomfortable in an environment where there is no laughing audience. I can now understand why. Joking becomes so much easier when presenter senses a receptive audience.

On the other hand, laughing at someone’s joke can put everyone at ease and even encourage creativity. In one of my favorite books on humor – Sh*t My Dad Says, the author started tweeting a few quotes from his father. People thought they were hilarious and gave very positive feedbacks. He started doing more and more, and eventually wrote a great book.

Learning: rejection or not, humor lubricates the conversation for both parties. When you are engaged in a negotiation session or sales pitch, be open to laugh at other’s jokes. You will both come out feeling good. Unless, of course, the jokes are really bad or the other person wasn’t joking. In that case, either say ‘no’ or just give him a hair-trim.

  • rojopaul

    One of my favorite requests so far. Those girls will always remember your request. Very funny.

  • anni

    Love it!

    I have some more ideas for you…

    1) Do you write? Ask a local bookstore (not a national chain) if you can do a reading there.
    2) Go to a senior’s home and ask if you can call out bingo numbers.
    3) Was there a high school class you wanted to take but never could? Go to a high school and ask if you can sit in with whatever class you want.
    4) Try to start a chain on April 25: http://www.thespec.com/news/business/article/862607–tim-hortons-customers-pay-it-forward-228-times-in-winnipeg
    5) Do you sing or play a musical instrument? See if you can perform in public somewhere.
    6) Ask for a basketball lesson from the university’s team (or another sport of your choice).
    7) Go to an animal shelter, ask if you can massage kittens (if you don’t have allergies and you like cats): http://www.catster.com/kittens/How-to-Give-Your-Cat-a-Massage-127
    or ask if any dogs need to be walked
    8) Ask somebody if you can shadow them at their job. A toy-maker, maybe? That might be fun.

    • anni

      *seniors’

  • doug

    Dude you are seriously funny.

  • Peasoup

    What I have really loved about this blog is not just learning to deal with rejection but also learning to reject. I worked for a business for quite a few years where I was the first person customers saw when they came through the door and have heard many crazy requests. What I learned while I worked there was to always be as tactful and graceful as possible, and if you can, try to offer alternative solutions and also use humor whenever it’s practical. Jia is always respectful in his requests, but many are not. The hardest thing I had to learn was to be resolute and firm when the situation became out of hand and knowing when (and when not to) get back up support.

    Another I would like to note is that many people saying “NO” to you really don’t want to tell you “NO”. I think a lot of people aim to please, but often times they just can’t realistically do what you ask.

  • mintychocchip

    Jia, you are becoming a true comedian!